Wednesday, February 14, 2018
Interesting observation
Pages 86 and 87 was particularly interesting to me. What I can't come to understand is how no one bothered to help her father with his alcohol abuse? When he died the two most important persons in his life (wife and mom) fell apart instantly. Weren't they aware of the consequences it would have had on them. Eventually, Celina overcame the passing of her husband and gained confidence and strength. While unfortantely, Abuelita never did she only got worse, i was surprise she moved to the projects after the remark she past when Celina moved the family there. Her own mother died and she didn't care to go. Why wasn't she overwhelmed with the grief for her mother? I thought they had a solid relationship. This is when she needed all those parties to soak away the pain eventhough her eyesight was going. The personality Abuelita was portrayed with throughout the beginning of the story just drastically changed exactly after Juli's death. I didn't expect that from her. I believe in away she let Sonia down because she could no longer have that constructive bond with her. It only got worse Abuelita when her husband began to fade away. She should have been there for Gallego more during this time. Instead Celina had to step up and help. Celina out of all persons. While Sonia and her brother kept it together and began getting good grades with the help of there mom. Sadly the passing of Juli allowed Celina to step up to the responsibilities of being a mother.
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ReplyDeleteI would like to share a personal experience in reference to Abuelita grief!
ReplyDeleteMy grandparents were married for over 40+years and when my grandfather died my grandmother had no tears at all, l asked her grandma why are you not crying and her response was that he’s not her child he didn’t come from her and she pointed to her stomach. I guess that everyone grieves differently. As l got older l understood what she meant, she loved her husband very much but the loss of a child is very different to the loss of a spouse and l guess that’s why her grief was very different when her son died in my opinion.
Or another point could be that even though Abuelita was blaming Celina for her son’s death, deep down inside Abuelita felt guilty and blamed herself that she didn’t get more involved with getting help, that’s why her pain is overbearing????
ReplyDeleteWell, as you said it could be that she felt guilty and now blames herself. I agree that this could be a possible explanation.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with this comment but from personal experience some cultures do not know how to deal with situations so they simply ignore it. The inability to deal with a situation has nothing to do with how you feel about the person(love). I think after her son died she was broken beyond repair, she blamed Celina because someone needed to bare the burden. Unfortunately Sonia has been in the adult role since a young age, I honestly believe that is the reason she is humble while strong. She has problem solving skills while exhibiting patience and compassion. Sonia is non confrontational but don't get it twisted she has that fire that she sometimes wishes wasn't so easily waken when she gets mad.
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